Its tough navigating through tough relationships. These relationships can consist of significant others, children, peers, colleagues/co-workers, siblings, parents, etc. As human beings, we gravitate to people who make us feel whole even if we knowing it may be temporary or detrimental to us. Knowing the difference between short versus long-term relationships can be beneficial. Key steps is looking at the foundation of any relationship. Is it built exclusively on respect, understanding, reciprocity, trust, and can it adhere to constant changes? Of course if we all had a magic ball we'd love to look into the future and determine which relationships are best for us. But of course, life doesn't warn or prepare us in such a manner. Why do people establish unhealthy relationships? Because people believe their brokenness can be put together by others. Sometimes people are manipulated and can't see that certain relationships aren't good for them. Some may even feel they deserve their current predicaments. Or perhaps an individual is in so much pain that they are blinded to the extraneous factors inhibiting them from establishing a healthy relationship. I see this occur too often with substance abuse & intimate relationships. Some people have difficulty understanding how unhealthy relationships begin. Its quite simple, when people feel hurt & disconnected from the world... they find solace in someone who's experienced similar situations & feelings such as themselves (mostly individuals within close reach). I personally believe the most valuable experience in the world is connecting with another human being on any of the following levels: emotional, mental stimulation, physical attraction, and physical touch. Experiences (good/bad) link people together who may have endured trauma/abuse/neglect. There is importance in establishing boundaries in any relationship and ground rules. Things can become complex when you introduce these factors: opposite sex/gender, age, religion, ethnicity, and so on. Respect, honesty, and understanding can go a long way (it should not be one-sided & controlled by one party). Open communication should be entrusted. Friendships/relationships should be about growth. Think back to a time you had a disagreement, argument, or coming to "Jesus" convo about someone's behavior(s) in a relationship. Did this relationship/friendship last or cease? Can your relationships & friendships withstand the tests of time? What are you willing to compromise, change, adhere to in order to keep those you consider close & dear to your heart? Or do you abandon people, hold onto resentment, and hurt? Its so easy to run away and blame others, but seeking reflection in yourself and asking for feedback goes a long way in stabilizing and having successful friendships & interpersonal relationships. Changing how we think, how we approach difficult conversations, and listening to the other individual, and applying change(s) are VERY IMPORTANT. Asking for forgiveness and re-building are all vital & fundamental to repairing relationships that may be strained, distant, or estranged.
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